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As proud as your dad is, I really believe he is extremely grateful inside (whether he's expressed it or not) to have you and your brother around as support now because he knows he needs it. You don't have to keep a strong appearance, you just have to be there and be 100% in his corner and fight as his advocate to get the medical treatment he needs. But it is ok to show some emotion to your wife and daughter, frankly, they'd understand and probably love you even more for it. Strong appearance or not, just be there for your dad - that's the most important thing. I know as a Christian, I'd be praying - if you believe in God, pray. Its a source of strength to me, that one can't understand if they don't believe there's a God who has created everything and is in control of everything, even if we don't get what we want, or what we think is just / right....there is a peace that I still feel in the midst of it. I've prayed for both you and your dad, though I do not know either of you, God does. |
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Thanks for the comments everybody.
My dad is actually a Minister. We had so many people from his church show up yesterday, it was overwhelming. He has been in the Ministry since I was about 10 yo. I will be the first to admit that I'm not the man I should be in that aspect. I had a very hard struggle with that when my son died...kind of jaded me. But I'm trying to do better.
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I cannot relate to losing a son, but my heart goes out to you, that would be tough beyond what I can understand right now and I understand why you would struggle. While sounding blunt, I don't mean it as such, but not sure how else to convey it, but in my experience, God wants us...all of us and 100% of us...that we put him first and live to bring glory to him. Sometimes, the way he gets our attention is gently...through a whisper to our hearts. And sometimes he uses a 2x4....depends on our personality I think. I've been a recipient of the 2x4 approach a few times because I'm a wee bit stubborn, and frankly, this may be a 2x4 moment for you right now, where he is trying to get your attention. Talk to your dad about your struggle, but most of all, talk to God. I'm sure you've already voiced the struggle you are having to God, do it again. Jesus knows struggling, he was tempted, he was tried on false charges, was separated from God at the cross, he died for our sins not his own - he knows agony really well. But know that God loves you as well, more than you can imagine. But he wants all of you, not just a part of you. That's something that I'm struggling with right now, putting him first. |
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The best thing you can do is just be there for him, and do what he wants to do, even if you know it isn't the best for him. They have a lot of pride, and will do what they want anyway, it is easier just to make them happy. I think some days my mom regrets some of the fights she had with my grandma, but she had dementia, so a lot of it was unavoidable. Bottom line is just do the best you can, it's a tough thing to go through, but you can only do what you are capable of, everyone involved including him knows that. There's always that thought of "I could've done ___ " but you can only do so much while maintaining your own sanity.
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Thats sad news Rmtt, hang in bro, I'll cross fingers that at the end all will work well for you
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Rmtt Superman is a pain in the ass when he gets sick!
I spoke to my dad yesterday, and he openly admits he is losing his mind. He still hasn't recovered from the shingles that was diagnosed on 12/23. Confession:I'm as much worried about his health as the extra burden that will be dumped on me to run his office if he can't get back on his feet. My son helps him now PT, but school starts today and he will have even less hours to run the office. I'm really afraid if he doesn't have the office as a reason to get up in the morning, he won't get up at all. |
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This thread has gotten a little heavy recently. My sympathies for all of you who are going through some shit
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there must be something you've done recently
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I’m glad you asked!
Steering briefly towards a more lighthearted confession, i confess that i have been cheating....on my service advisor with another dealership. It all started when a newly opened dealership sent me a coupon book with some really crazy introductory offers to get me to try their service. Stuff like free annual service/oil changes, big discounts on tires/alignment, etc. So i used their service department for pretty much a whole year until i used up all the coupons. So my original dealership started sending me jilted-lover emails, wondering if it was something they did or said that made me not go back. I returned to them this year, which made them happy, but now the needy emails are starting from the second dealership. This is stressful...i don’t know how you guys with wives and mistresses manage it. |
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good stuff, keep up the infidelity
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Today he is being put on dialysis to try and clean his blood, but also because he needs two full days of this to prepare his kidneys from any damage they may receive from a scheduled Heart Cath that will be done on Friday. Best Case - They find an occlusion and can "stent" it, or something else that can be addressed during the Cath which may indirectly also help his kidney function at least after a ton of rehab. Worst Case - The Cath shows them issues that can only be resolved by open heart. He's been through this once years ago and has said if it comes to that..he is not doing anything and going to suffer his fate. He had 4X bypass at the age of 49. As I have mentioned, my daughter is a nurse in the Critical Cardiac Care unit. So sometime near the end of this week she will have her Grandfather on her floor. I urge all of you guys if you have any kind of heart disease or Diabetes, see your doctor, get with a nutritionist, and fight this with all that you can. You can have these issues and if you approach it correctly, you can have many years of good quality life. Don't ignore the warning signs. Get ahead of it. Not just for yourself, but for your loved ones as they have to go through this with you when things go bad. I am probably known as being a fitness fanatic in the Health Thread, but I am that way because I know the genetic disposition that I have inherited from my family. I had a long talk with my younger brother yesterday because he is heading down that path. So for all of you that I have had the pleasure of interacting with on here, I wish only the best for you. It's never too late to start being as healthy as you can possibly be. When you are young, you think you are indestructible. But it will catch up with you at some point. I don't plan to post my problems on here any further so that the thread can get back to what it was created for. Everyone has hardships that they must face. I just appreciate you guys letting me get it off my chest.
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