View Poll Results: How long did you date before getting married? | |||
under a year | 12 | 9.76% | |
1-1.99 years | 22 | 17.89% | |
2-2.99 years | 16 | 13.01% | |
3-6 years | 27 | 21.95% | |
over 6 years | 17 | 13.82% | |
still not married | 29 | 23.58% | |
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02-25-2019, 10:34 AM | #45 |
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I've been married for the last 14/15 years. I don't think there should be a time limit on when you 'should' get married. I wouldn't look at it from a time prospective.
Bottom line is do you have your life together (was gonna a say $hit together). Meaning a good stable job. Without a good job, it will be tough as hell to have a marriage, a family, a home, etc. It all starts from having money, at least more disposable money. If you have that checked off your list, then great! Then in your mental notes does she meet all the standards in your list, other than looks? Good person, caring, helpful, etc. If you have that checked off your list, then great! and what are you waiting for?
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02-25-2019, 11:29 AM | #47 |
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02-25-2019, 11:33 AM | #48 |
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Married a week after I turned 20, and it will be 34 years in August. If you are feeling she is the one, go for it. Don't put so much stock in all the 'be careful' and 'make sure everything is 100% compatible' - of course you are both going to change a lot over time. If you are going for the long run it takes working things out as they come up, no matter how compatible you are. If you don't have the tolerance for that, then probably better staying a bachelor.
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There is definitely no a trend here that is for sure.
Dated for 7 yrs, meet when we were 17, and we went to 2 different college on opposite ends of the state so we dated all through college, I use to say I was keeping my option open but most option were crazy (reference the Crazy Hot Scale). Probably would never have gotten marries but the wife force the issue. So we did the big wedding (250 people) then moved to Calif for a Job and had kids 7 yrs later and we have been married 30 yrs now. |
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She is my second wife. First wife was the High School sweetheart thing and we knew each other for a few years before getting married very young. We lasted about two years since she wanted to date other people while we were married. For some weird reason I objected to this arrangement. My second wife and I have been together for over 20 years and married for 17 of them. |
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"Sure I can. I leave books lying around and keep the big tools away from you and when I can't babysit you, my dad can. " 15 years later, this is still working.
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"You can't divorce me, I let you bring one book to bed to stop the stupid conversation and you knock it to your own eye when you pass out. Do you know how long it takes men to realize you can't be left on your own for more than six hours?" To be honest, my midlife crisis was a bit lame.
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02-26-2019, 02:54 AM | #56 |
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Yeah, I was hearding stories that you was sitting into someones cage and just rattling at the lattice bars when you need short attention..ey?
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Some of the best times in one of my marriages is when we were piss poor. We had to get creative on how to spend our time as we couldn't go out for dinner or movies, etc. We recreated childhood memories as adults together. I can remember taking hikes during snow days, snow angels, snow ball fights in public and whatnot. It was like being a kid again and playing with your best friend. We were the closest that we ever were in our relationship during this time. I bought her a house 4 years later and she left me for someone with more money. Go figure. Spending money does not = romance.......youngsters.... |
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I got married less than three weeks ago. We had been dating for right about two years at that point. We made the decision a while back that we wanted to get married. I can honestly say out of all the gals "over the years" that not a single one clicked like she did. I felt pretty confident within just a few months of us dating that she'd be the one.
The marriage was as simple as it gets (short of going to the court and signing papers). We have a friend that has a nice house on a lake in the Blue Ridge Mountains that let us have it for a long weekend. Brought her parents, my parents, and a family friend that officiated. It was exactly what we wanted and it only cost us the booze and grub we decided to bring up there with us. We figured that the wedding should be for us and not for the people attending. If there's money to be spent on a big wedding, let's redirect those funds to more important life moments rather than on a single night of partying. We do well for ourselves financially and both families are affluent, but I certainly think people can break the mentality that you have to wait to get married because you can't afford the wedding. Ours was a few hundred bucks all in. |
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I dated my wife for about 6 years before we got married. I proposed after 5 years. If you ask her, she'll tell you she was ready for the ring after a year... I had some maturing to do and was still in my mid 20s at the time. I can't pinpoint why, but i'm glad I waited.
When it came time to make wedding plans, she developed a spreadsheet that quickly gave us perspective on how much our wedding would cost. My wife is practical. We had the conversation of wedding vs. buying our first house... we decided to buy a house and have a small wedding at our house/park. I think we spent a total of $2500 on the wedding. 6 years later, we are still happy and in the same house with 2 kids. Lots of memories here, including the wedding, our first dog, kid 1, kid 2, etc. There is never a right time for these life decisions... go with your gut and GL!
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