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also - rejections. it happens, the guys that know me that doesnt phase me really.
BUT this past friday something extremely weird happened. im at the bar, and had a girl introduce herself to me and then to her friends. we're talking etc having a fun time, but bars closing in 30 mins. so i tell her hey we're probably going to have afties at my place if you wanted to come. she says yea maybe so im like dope let me get your number. she says she doesn't give her number to strangers. kinda got the message here but i'm a facetious pos so i ask for her snap, to which she says she doesn't use it. so i told her my address and said i'll see you if i see you. she puts out her hand like a handshake and goes "thanks but i'm not interested" and i'm baffled. not bc she turned me down, but the way she did it. on one hand i appreciate the honesty but on the other im super lost with the handshake. did she think this was a career fair? should i have added her on linkedin? |
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Should have called it quits after the number rejection my guy. You know this. |
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If she doesn't give her number that's done right then and there but hey ask and you'll never know |
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06-15-2020, 11:10 PM | #6670 | |
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Maybe when the pool/hot tub is finished she will stay (she's already bought a new bikini to wear in my pool that left my tongue around my shoes) but I don't know - it's like she's hardened against getting attached to anyone because of something in the past. It's like she talks the talk, but doesn't walk the walk - so I should either run, or just bide my time and claim the prize. And given the details my cars very well, it will be the latter. Most likely I will bide my time, and nothing will happen. |
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06-15-2020, 11:11 PM | #6671 |
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okay okay i think its simple: you're thinking too much about it but holy shit you're one lucky guy if you have a chick who prefers working on your car than hers at your place with her dog |
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It's weird - she's young, but street smart and been on her own since about 15. She's very mature for her age and background, relies on nobody but herself, and is very respectful (I mentioned one night that I bought new trousers so as not to stain the seats - she bought hers herself obviously expecting to be in the cars one day, which is not unreasonable for a detailer). I just can't work her out - she's close, but distant. Maybe it's a case of just slowly earning her trust - she doesn't seem to trust people. Just needs time to work out I'm for real. |
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But honestly, do you really think a detailer would send you pics of the pants she bought to detail your cars? (disregard the fact that most detailers are men when answering) Could very well be my lizard brain jumping to conclusions, too, but the pants and the bikini - she's interested. But, if she's got street smarts and "relies on nobody but herself" you might have a window that gets tighter with every day. Plus what's the worst that can happen? I'm sure she's not the only detailer in all of Texas. Worst case you get rejected and she never comes back so you call another detailer Honestly - fairly plausible. One of her friends was from my major too and even though she's only a year older than me she didn't recognize me and i didn't recognize her, so i just assumed she was just anti social. Plus this girl was cuter and more interesting to talk to |
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06-16-2020, 12:35 AM | #6676 | |
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I have a feeling she likes you more than you think, but sounds like you're getting cold feet. |
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06-16-2020, 03:58 AM | #6677 | |
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It's like she's trying to keep me at an exact distance - not to close, but don't go anywhere... :/ And isn't it always like that? The one you're interested in - isn't into you? Or is that just me |
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Confusing as fuck :/ And no - I don't have cold feet. I just cannot get a read on her, and cannot get any sense of direction. |
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06-16-2020, 04:29 AM | #6679 | |
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She's sounds like she's been "burned" a couple of times....and this is her way of feeling things out. Just play it down and act like it's business as normal and let her do her thing. She's testing you. Basically looking for an excuse as to why she shouldn't become attached too quickly. They can't help it if indeed that is what is going on. So just chill out and let things go where they go. If she "spooks"...it's done. You can bet she is going to be looking for every reason not to want to let her guard down...and that takes time. My wife is as independent as they come......a lot would consider her unapproachable. My problem was I didn't give a shit whether she was around or not....like if we were supposed to meet..and she had something come up. I would be like okay and then not give it another thought until after she had already called me 3X trying to get in touch days later. Her thinking of not being in control of her feelings scared her more than anything else.
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She is into you, till she finds a new distraction. This woman lacks intensity and likely is just restless. You are an "interesting person" to her, but nothing more. In the end, she won't be worth the trouble. But above all, I don't get why you are "all in" when you can't even read her. BimBim's Maxim: if she wants you, she will come to you. |
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sounds naive as fuck. which annoys me beyond belief.. |
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i think dinonz and his detailer thing would make a good porno.
I could picture the headline "young detailer cleans cars and _ _ _ _ ) lmfao |
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06-16-2020, 06:43 AM | #6684 | |
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What I mean was my wife was independent and already established. She put herself through college, had her own house, and just overly cautious. So she was slow to commit to anything. That was fine because at the time...I wasn't planning on committing to anything anyways. I had been single for almost 7 years and having a lot of fun.
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I've managed to land ladies that were/are WAAAY out of my league that I never thought would be interested in me. My advice to all of you, when it comes to ladies, we have no clue what's going on......shit, they don't either. Everything a woman does is based on her emotions at that very second. |
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Alcohol lowers standards. I don't feel that this needs to be elaborated any further. Making out without alcohol is something left to married couples and people of the porn industry.
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